absence

It was a long stretch

She lived, she created, she saw…

In spite of it all, she is still here.

 

Restraints

Restraints

When we harbor guilt, pain, trauma, disappointments within our heart, we bear the brunt of being in chronic mental pain for a very long time. We allow these things to infiltrate our minds, we allow them rule us, we allow them become our voice—eventually, our identity. So intense, these things eventually begin to permeate our being, hence, it becomes us. It overwhelms us, it overpowers us, it overshadows our thinking—making everything that once bore a hint of clarity, undefined. These things have the power to consume us, leaving no room for light, peace, or love.

Pain is a powerful emotion. When coupled with guilt, trauma and disappointments, it delves into unknown territory which many, hardly come out the same. We must be mindful that pain has the potential to dim every ounce of light that may try to find its way within us, and through us. We must be careful to not allow pain dictate, speak, or control who we are. We must never bow to its whims, and most of all we must not welcome and/or relish its feigned comfort, in our day to day interactions.

Yes, pain is an emotion, and many suffer with it until the day they die. Yes, some never recover, and many even turn to artificial relief—in form of drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, and bitterness. Yes, bitterness can be a coping mechanism too, because like the saying goes “hurt people, hurt people”.

Yes, pain is free. But it is very costly, and you cannot walk away from pain, whole. It strips you of every fiber of your very being, it steals your joy, and leaves you helpless—in hopes of escaping light, each time. Light will elude you, and love will have no place within you. Such a terrible phenomenon, this pain; it appears to never get better, instead it exalts itself over your very being, leaving you to wallow in the darkest corners of your heart—broken and without.

Get out! Be vigilant, remain aware and bring to light every pain you face today. Confront it, stare at it in its face, and speak your deliverance from it. Although this is not easy, but it is something that must be done if peace, love, joy and light is what you seek. We must not depend on others to find relief, neither should we depend on any outside establishment to bring us “relief”. Be your own relief, live life—with the likeness of an infant. Free, devoid of every type of darkness or lack of joy thereof. Refuse to be restrained any further. Let go, just remember, you have the power. ONLY you can say “enough”, and truly walk away with your held high. Put pain to shame by silencing its power over you.

Decree and declare

Pain, you cannot control me.

I choose what I feel, when I feel, and how I feel.

Pain, you are not what I want to feel today.

Pain, I want to be free today and for the rest of my life

Pain, your time is up, you must leave now

Pain, I choose to BE alive today

Pain, I deserve to be free…

Pain, I AM free…

 

From Ashes..

It has been so long since i put my thoughts down…. So much has happened, and i don’t even know where to start. A couple of weeks ago, i had a conversation with an old friend. As i was on my way back from work, she crossed my mind and so i decided to call her. After spending almost an hour getting caught up on life, I remembered how much i missed her. I remember when we would hang out, taking long drives out-of-town, how we would talk on the phone for hours, how we would spend time together–just being Free. And then it dawned on me…I really miss her.

You see, marriage and motherhood has a way of making you choose between what you would like to do vs what you must do. It has a way of showing you another side of life that draws you away from “you” and focus on others, who bring so much more into your life. Not that my friends and previous lifestyle didn’t bring me much, but, i mean this my saying that my husband and my sweet baby girl are my LIFE today.

I told my friend this, and she too, also agrees that i am experiencing one of the most beautiful experiences of my life right now, and nobody has a right to take that feeling away from me or even distract me from it. She understands that, one day, she will also get to enjoy and experience this blessing which she can almost imagine today. Her words have always been true and comforting. I know her and she knows me. She knows that life has its own way of turning things around from one thing to the other.

Although i miss her, i can also look at my life today and see how far i have come. Not just from a girl who once thought “nothing” would ever come between her and her life. But today, i can see this woman who looks at herself in the mirror every morning and says “yes, you’ve really come this far. Now, go ACHIEVE MORE!”.

I am grateful, i am content, though it hasn’t always been an easy road, but i can honestly say, i wouldn’t have it no other way!

Love’s price…

When you find love, I mean REAL love, the type that sees your ugliest flaw and still loves you, don’t let go… No, don’t confuse this with that fleeting lust masked as love. Love doesn’t give conditions ; because just like Christ loves us even though we r sinners, we must love, and cherish the love that sets us free…
In today’s world, love comes with a cost. But only a few know the real meaning of love… There’s no price attached to love…. No, don’t be fooled by the physical, material enticements… There’s so much more to discover, leaving no room for bargains or possibly, feigned regrets.
“I love you’s” now come without meaning. Like my mom would say, “always check their actions”. Yes, action DOES indeed speak louder than words. If action doesn’t equate to words spoken, then it’s a questionable type of love.
Love is sweet when it’s genuine, real, raw, undiluted. Its potency almost drowns you in its sea of abundant bliss…

To be contd..

On life…as i know

On life… as I know

By Judy C Obieke

 For thoughts on life, we must all go one day

Remembering we are just here for a brief moment

Time, as we know it, will continue to progress

A never-ending eternity, existing until…

We must live for today, with hopes for tomorrow

We must love as if today’s chance was only given to us, mistakenly

We must cherish the love we have, and the love we lost

We must love without bounds, never dwelling on things that never came our way

We must show the world the change we want to see, let us not forget—kindness heals

We must continue striving each day, making the next, more phenomenal than the last one

We must indulge in things that bring us joy, bearing in mind—moderation is key

We must forgive, if peace is what we seek…

If there is anything else, we must remember tomorrow, is not guaranteed

A Love Like Air: The Perfect definition

A Love Like Air: The Perfect definition.

Prosé: Sweet words of l’amour

Cherish me, in my most vulnerable times
Console me, when the tears just find it hard to cease
Comfort me, in the times I feel like there’s nothing left…
Is it Too much to ask, if I asked, your hands caressing my back
When the pain just won’t cease?

How sweet, the words of l’amour
The sweet words of irrevocable magnificence
A magnificent tune, I find so irresistible to indulge
The sweet melodies of love, only you and I know its lyrics
Our dance, a melodious trance, just for two
As For you, I know your tune will never miss a beat

This beat, we’ve become accustomed to its rhythm
One, two, three and four times, your heartbeats still never skips a beat
In just a moment, a beat would be the least of our troubles

As troubles come, they’ll also go
And as for this dance, we’ll always know
How sweet, the words of L’amour is
Every step brings us closer
Closer and closer, to what we know
The sweet words of L’amour will always grow

Rising to fall?

Sometimes our rise to greatness may suffer a great fall. That fall is where the strength to rise back up lies. Proving to the world that we are able to rise again, is the key to rectification. In those times of uncertainties, we are left to fend for ourselves while watching the ones who once rooted for us, walk out on us as if we never existed. Our existence begins to elude us as we imagine what it would be like if we  ceased to be. Leaving all that’s left in these times of worries to fate. Yes, fate is the one thing we know to be mostly accurate, depending on where our faith lies.

In times of uncertainties, let’s not forget to live.

Life as we know it, will never cease to be.

A time to rise again, we must fight to be

Living as if we’ve been given one more chance to live

To be that which we were created to be

As we once were, that which most aspired to be

We must remember that today, our present, is a chance to rise again.

A chance to live life again, once more

That friend..

Friends come, and friends go. So many people walk in and out of our lives, but only a few people really stay with us for better or worse. There are friends whom you’ve clicked with right from the first day you met. Like a love story, everything just fell into place. You finally found someone who has a lot in common with you, is willing to tolerate your weaknesses and not so proud moments. Forget feeling judged, this friend is equally imperfect, and will never use your secrets against you. They always look out for you; in fact, they are always ready to speak up for you when others gang up against you. This friend is truly special. For the fact that they’ve chosen to venture into this journey with you, says a lot about how lucky you are to have this friend. You see, it is rare to find someone who still sees you as someone amazing even after seeing your not-so-amazing side.
For my dear friend
I love you, just because…

I cherish you because you keep me grounded

Situations may arise, but I can count on your peaceful disposition

As we sit in silence, in our silence, our hearts still talk

Our talks are priceless…

I can count on them during those times of painful uncertainties

I cherish our dates, yes we’ve had them… you’ve shown me what friendship truly means

In all I do, I know you’ll support me

I just want you to know this

You are amazing and I love you

Like a sister I never had, I can finally say “you’re it”

Thank you, my friend

Don’t Rush “Forevers”

Don’t Rush “Forevers”.